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| Elara Posts: 675/9736 |
Since Zabuza already responded to Beo's post I'm just gonna keep my mouth shut on that.
Like I said in my reply to that entry, I am sorry for whatever part I've played in that... because I know that I have, especially with the whole Elias bullshit. But yeah... you read the reply. *huggles* I didn't mean to ignore... I'm just weak-willed... but I've nearly got it now. |
| Makura Posts: 247/1555 |
I may be completely out of line but it didn't seem like Zabuza went into enough detail about his situation for you to jmp all over his case like that Beo.
I don't know enough about the situation or who it was with but, I can relate to what you said. People who come at you with their life problems and seeming like you are the ones to fix them, but when you give them advice the criticize it, it can get frustrating. |
| Stitch Posts: 316/2785 |
Well, you said it yourself, I am me. And, my mind functions in different parameters than that of the norm. I'd never physically harm anyone outside of the scope of a requirement for a work (i.e., Loss Prevention, Border Patrol, etc.) But, needless to say, and I'm going to do it anyway, I'm a dark and sinister person online. Always have, always will be.
In the real world, I'm just a selective ass. I'm an aggressive driver on the freeway (a true California driver), and I'm an aggressive person with my beliefs. If you can't take a joke, don't dive in the pool. Look, people have died at my schools, and I've been around very difficult situations. My safety reflex involves creating morbidly jokingly situations around the negative to cope with it. And, it works for me. But, again, you missed the point. I'm not saying that because I'm gay, my opinions are wrong. I'm just saying that I don't like being stereotyped. I'm easily annoyed by the presence of people. Always have been, always will be. But, my aggressions are transformed into writing (Soldier of Fortune), playing (Piano, Violin), or video games (GTA, Burnout 3). I'm pretty much harmless. It's almost laughable. Yes, I like Cyro's body...but that's as far as that goes. Nothing more. Great guy online, but that's it. Nothing more than that. Now, if you'll excuse me, I'll be at the museum with the real Rogue. |
| Rauni Posts: 217/1351 |
Originally posted by Belial It is exactly what she said... In Motive Psychology, there was a story about a girl who was absord in her own world, she was the best shooter in the basketball team. Until one of her best friends didn't like her, she never pass the ball to her ever. So they got into a little fight. So the best shooter ask her dad to know what was the best possible situation and know what he answer? "Pass her the ball." She thought it was a ridilious idea, just as similar as I think you are assuming here. But when the game started, she thought that it may worth a try and so she pass the ball to her. And that best friend was in shock to see she was passed by her best friend when she hate her so much. In the end, they score more then alone if they were fighting... ---- See Zabuza? The way Belial said is very true. People are afraid of your opinion because they thought it was a bad idea at first. If they thought "He's gay so this mean he could be wrong." and soon when they found out that your answer is the right one to the situation, they could feel like they were wrong the entire time. I don't know if you hate me or not but Zabuza, sometime I fear your jokes because either it sound seriously or something that I felt you hold a huge grudge toward to me. I don't like to see you shouting or posting "I'm going to kill you all. LOL" when the similar situation happened to my school. Sometime you got consider people's feeling. We are not prefect like you wanted us to be... I don't care the facts that you are gay or you like Cyro Xeno, but the only facts that you are just you. Nothing changes that except you. You are entitlen to do what you want but please keep in mind... Nobody is perfect. We all don't want to be killed or be taken seriously because of what you actually desired for. I don't know if you know this or not, but everytime you jokes something with a seriously issue like "BeoBan" or "I'm going to kill you all"... It just pains me that you want to create your own world and punishs some innocent peoples right under your nose. You just scare me from doing that and even you thought of a dark side, I kinda felt more betrayed by your honestly and make me feel like you actually want to kill me... I don't know if this help much but... as least I going to explain my feeling... I like you, Zabuza... but I just think you could keep a little minor adjustment when it come to a serious "joking" issue. |
| Belial Posts: 47/647 |
*hug* From your point of view it does indeed sounds like you are being used. But perhaps the reason that they do not listen to your advice is because they're too stuck in their ways to change. Everybody hates change.
This is not the best way to be good to your good friends. Yes, it's great that you listen to them and such, but there *is* a point in time when you must tell them to back off, with a reason why, which is obviously what you just did. Perhaps not waiting for the stress level to peak would have been better. And no, people probably don't go to you because you're the gay man, but more because they know you'll listen. |
| Stitch Posts: 312/2785 |
An excerpt from my most recent journal entry:
"By what implication has it ever made it okay to ask me for advise on your relationships, or anything for that matter, and then not take anything I say into consideration. If what you're looking for is someone to fix your problems for you, I'm not it. I'll listen, and I'll share my opinion and if you choose to follow any of my advice, so be it. But, if you waste my time by asking for my advice, and then either not listening or not following through, then I'm done with you in that aspect. I am not a marriage counselor, a relationship counselor, a mediator, a messenger boy, a fixer-upper, a taxi driver, a whathaveyou person. I am your friend. If this is how you'd like to treat your friend, then friends we shall not be. You're all adults, please act like it. You've got relationship issues, you figure them out with your partner. Last I checked, my majors were Computer Science, Criminal Justice, and Linguistics. I don't see "Counseling" anywhere (granted it may fall under Criminal Justice, but no). You wanna fuck up your relationships by doing the opposite of what seems to be correct, even after my advice, so be it. Fuck it all up. Why? Because, and simply put, I DON'T GIVE A FLYING FUCK. There, I said it. It was pent up for days on end, and I was sugar coating it, but I'm done dealing with this crap. I have shit that I have to deal with on a fucking daily basis, and your problems with your respective boyfriends/girlfriends is not something else that I want to hear. What gave anyone the idea that simply by being gay, I'd want to hear about every little thing your boyfriend fucks up on? I'm not the typical guy, I'm not the typical girl, I'm me, and I (as my previous post on being a smartass reveals) just don't care. I really fucking don't. Yeah, I'll listen to you. I'll be that sympathetic ear. But, if you're not even going to make an effort to better yourself through suggestion, my time is being wasted. Time I'd rather spend doing something constructive. I'm not saying that I don't care about any of you, I do. Just that I don't want to hear all of your crap all the time. Does it honestly filter through your heads that I'm the counselor of the group? Is that what "Den Daddie" has come to be? I'm the listening ear because I'm the gay man? Well, I've come to tell you all that I'm sick and tired of it. I'm done. You can bitch and moan to me all you want, but if all you want is a sounding board with no replies, comments, or meaningful advice for your situations, I'm not that sounding board. I'd like to think that you all can confide in me from time to time, but have any of you ever stopped to think (and forget to start again) that you're burdening with more than I'd ever like to deal with? I don't want to feel that I'm being selective with anyone. I just want to live a life not having to choose between friends because certain friends don't get along with other friends. Or, because one party won't sleep with the other party. Or, because you feel that you are a constant burden to me even though you're not. There are few people in this world right now that I can truly say don't bother me at all in the least, and those people know who they are. The rest of you will just have to deal. Honestly, I'm happy for all of you in my own ways, but I just can't deal with the nagging and constant childish behavior some of you exhibit. You're all adults, or am I the only one with a level head? So, yeah, I'm so upset right now that, yes, I am crying. Not because of anything going on in your lives, but because so few of you have that motivation to hurt others on the grounds of the most menial desires in life. Well, I say, "Fuck you world, I'm going to bed." In the end, I still love you all. I still care for you all. My advice is not to be wasted, but if you're just not going to listen to me, don't bother me please." So, in the end, I'm still getting this feeling that I'm being used, and even though I've come to terms that it seems to be the only way I can be a good friend to my friends, how come it still hurts? |
