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DarkGuardian Posts: 165/219 |
This is a word of advise from someone who knows how you feel: At the moment you can't really do anything about it so don't get so worked up over it. Wait until there is something you can do about it, then take action but don't worry over something you can do nothing about. |
Elara Posts: 745/9736 |
If you don't care, you don't care. There is really nothing that you can do about it. Like you said, you can't get to Detroit, so yeah. Perhaps just ask how he is doing next time you talk to your mom, but don't pretend like you're worried if you're not. Like Tamarin said, you can't choose your family and you don't have to care about the ones you don't like. |
Makura Posts: 267/1555 |
I had a similar stuation with my mother. She was in the hospital repeatedly. I think it comes down to the fact that you just get fed up. I wouldn't say there is anything wrong with you. Just hang in there and you'll figure it out. |
Astrophel Posts: 239/2724 |
Well, it's not normal as far as I can tell, but who can determine what is 'normal' when everyone's so different?
So you don't care. Big deal. I was the same way when my grandfather was dying (he was a bigot and an asshole, I don't care what my grandmother says). You can't choose your family, and you can't be expected to always care about the ones you don't like. |
Knives Posts: 17/44 |
Ok, Déesse, I guess I'll follow your advice.
But when i say stuff like "I feel bad for him" it sounds so fake, so would asking if he's ok or how he's getting along. |
Déesse Posts: 479/958 |
Originally posted by Knives Well if you just explain this to your mother, I'm sure she would understand, just give her some support, call up and see how your brother is going, just to show your aware of what is going on and that you care. |
Kard Ayals Posts: 309/2915 |
Normal? Maybe not.
But sometimes, It can't be helped. (I'll take myself as an exemple: My father died a few years ago, never felt bad about it, or never cried. Yet I didn't exactly hate him). |
Knives Posts: 14/44 |
I'd go for my mom if I could.
But I just don't have the money to get from Atlanta to Detroit. And even if I did, I'd probably end up yelling at him for nothing. I just don't like him, I can't stand him. |
Déesse Posts: 476/958 |
Nothing is wrong with you, from what you have said your brother sounds like he did a lot of mean things to you and it can affect you in so many ways emotionally. And it will be hard to just forgive him for them things... but he is your brother after all and I'm sure your mother will feel that bit happier that you went and saw him, to show your support.
If you have to, be there for your mother, cause I'm sure she would be upset and everything Be the better person. |
Knives Posts: 5/44 |
Got a call around 6:45 pm last night from my mom, when she told me he was in the hospital.
Who is he? He is my brother. He is in the hospital for doing LSD, a lot of LSD, not just one or two tries, but like, a bad addiction. But for some reason, I just don't give a flying fuck. Now there's gotta be something wrong with that right? I guess so, but not like it matters, we quit talking last year anyway. Why'd we quit talking? He was a complete asshole to my older sister, the only person who ever understood me. He might die, and if he does I guess I'll feel like crap. But I think I should right now, but I just can't feel bad for him after he said those things he said, and did those things he did. I'm not going to post them here, they'll just make me even more angry at him. In fact thinking about him makes me angry. I just told my mom that I was sorry and that I know he'll get better. My question is: What the hell is my problem. My brother is in a hospital, dying because of a bad drug addiction, and I'm sitting here not caring. |