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| AngelBayB49 Posts: 57/87 |
To be totally & completely honest, I was on the opposite side of this in high school. I was one of the popular ones, the "in" crowd.
Up until high school, I was completely & totally a "nerd", I guess. I was more into academics than hanging out w/ friends. I was in advanced classes my whole life, having tested at a college junior reading level in first grade. I also did the usual activities that my mom wanted me to do: Girl Scouts, musicals/acting/singing, band, ballet, etc. Once I got to high school, I became popular. I can honestly say what happened to me was one person thought I was pretty cool & that was it. I was in. I can honestly say I was a bitch in high school, but not to the extreme that some of my friends were. I was mostly the quiet one in the popular group. I was in Tall Flags/Colorguard & Marching Band. Then I got to college, & my first semester there I joined a sorority & realized I was starting from the bottom all over again. I guess I could be considered "popular" at college. I'm not sure, ask Pockets, Elara, Cryus, WhiteRose, GuardianOni, etc. People who know me at school. Anyhow, the whole point of that was, you don't really know what the "in" crowd is thinking unless you're on that side also. For me & most of my peers, it was an insecurity thing. As harsh & bitchy as it sounds, it's easier to address someone else's fears or problems instead of your own. It's stupid, & never the smart thing to do, but that's how it works. The best thing to do is ignore it. Eventually they WILL stop teasing you. They'll figure you aren't worth the time or effort. |
| Master Naruto Posts: 29/195 |
eh, i'm lucky also. I'm naturally strong and big. People who usually try to start fights with me end up backing down or something. But when I was is middle school, I had the same things happen to me so I know how you feel. Just do what I did...keep to yourself and try to seem invisible  sry, but that's ther best advice I can give. It's either that r find the biggest, baddest black guy in your school and beat the ever-loving sh*t outta him and make sure everybody sees it. I promise that nobody will mess with you after that. |
| Kard Ayals Posts: 319/2915 |
Really seems to suck to be you.
Really, I was rather lucky, as my high scholl had around 700 students, so there wasn't much people. But even thought I'm considered a nerd, I like anime and stuff, people don't go around and annoy me (okay, I'm the one who would likely treaten idiots that hate anime and go being assholes to people who enjoy anime). |
| Van Rhanell Posts: 70/337 |
i'm among the tackiest and awkward of guys at my school (i still like Dragonball Z), but I seem to have extraordinary luck with not running into social conflict, very surprising to me being a fresmen. One thing you should do is NOT be violent towards them, if they're like the soulless among the school i'm at, they'll gets their "boys" to come swear at you and "break you face"; whatever they like calling it these days. If you ignore everything and be silent to all abuse, it will do much more good than you think. |
| Ryan Posts: 240/1748 |
Sad thing is, if you are in the UK you aren't even judged on being cheerleader (don't have one) or captain of the football teams (teacher does this instead). Basically I can't say how people at my school judge me because it is too rude. Although I am judged for wearing pajamas for P.E, even though they were black beach shorts |
| Benja Posts: 99/551 |
It depends on how you look at it angry person xeo. If high school is good for you then it could be. But college you are not judged by what you wear or if your the captain of the football team, they judge you on your personality, the way it should be done. |
| Xeoman Posts: 1085/11757 |
I don't want to take the topic off too far here or anything, and just ignore me if you feel I am Clockworkz.
But a question for the older folks here I guess, I take it College really is a great experience? Like I said in my post, I'm lucky to be enjoying my HS like I am, but if it could be even better, wow. |
| High Flyin' Ryan Posts: 17/93 |
I'm not to popular at school but I'm very well known as a respectful person. You just need to stick up for yourself and beat the shit out of some of punks who mess with you. In my world there is no such thing as a fair fight. So if you think you are going to be out numbered, make sure to have an equalizer such as a baseball bat, hammer, or something to do damage like putting nails between your fingers. Remember kicking in the nuts is not a cheap shot  it is an open oppertunity to say "Fuck off!" Some people think they can mess with me just because I'm a quiet person, yet I always give them what they deserve. That and most people won't mess with me because they know a lot of my friends will be after them . I remember one time on the school bus in eigth grade a kid named Dustin would push me around and one day he pushed me and my friend Brian saw him and beat the shit out of him ever since Dustin won't come around me. Also never be afraid to get adults involved, you may think it is not smart, but perhaps it could save you from suicide, depression, stress, and a bunch of psychological problems. Seeking help for yourself will never be a bad thing, just remember you need to find away to get them to leave you alone and whether it be violence or not, they will not leave you alone until you stick up for yourself. |
| Elara Posts: 721/9736 |
Riddle talk again Benja? Heh heh.
Anywho, if all else fails you could just leave that school and get your GED from a community college. I don't know if trying to beat them up is the best idea or not... at least the ones on the bus. The bastards with the spitballs on the other hand... well, going off on them once majorly should get them to back off (in theory). A quarter of my high school thought I was psycho so they didn't fuck with me, another quarter feared me because I was a witch, the rest either were cool with me or didn't give a fuck. |
| Benja Posts: 97/551 |
Its funny really.................you feel when no one gives a shit about you, theres more then some people you think that actually do.
High school.................everyone hates it really, except those cheerleaders who have no intellegence whatsoever and they always have some guy standing around them following them like a puppy dog. I was never messed with in high school cause i was so tall. Really what i would have is that dream to the college.........cause in college, everyones treated as an equal. Being hated? Are you kidden me? Be glad your not me. Cause take a look around, then youll see. |
| Ryan Posts: 235/1748 |
our school lives are quite identical there clockworkz.
I've lived through this crap since i was 9 and moved to Stafford. I'm now 14 and still face getting called names, being hit, tripped up. Strange thing is, according to everyone, I like Pokemon just because I'm a Nintendo fan... and I get teased even by my "friends" for that. I've got a girl in my class getting her boyfriend who is 2 years older than me hunting me down, and ive already run into him once. |
| Katana Posts: 226/3649 |
Well...violence does solve things...sometimes. Just beat them up. S'what I do. **shrugs** Then again, I ain't the biggest threat in the world myself, but I still don't take any shit whatsoever. If someone shot spitballs at me everyday like that, I'd give them the warning and tell them to stop or I'd shove that straw up their ass...and if they didn't heed my warning, guess what my next move was? (Btw, I've never shoved anything up someone's ass.... My "if she says it, she'll do it" reputation has spared me from that.)
Otherwise, I'm not popular either. Though I do have a lot of friends in high school...there's close to 3,000 kids in my school, so it's like if one person is popular among 100 or so kids, there's still well over 2,000 kids that would't give them the time of day. So I don't really notice things like that anymore. It seems like people either know you or they don't. Grade school however....**cringes** THOSE were the tough years. I used to get beat up cuz I didn't do marijuana with the other kids, or drink or anything....tormented for being the quiet bookworm...the usual situation really...but it's something that hurts and shouldn't be usual... We all understand how you feel...  |
| Xeoman Posts: 1065/11757 |
This situation within the world is rather ridiculous.
I can say, and I don't take it for granted, that I am lucky to go to the High School I go to. It's a brand new school, this being it's 2nd year open, and it's -very- high tech when compared to the other high schools around, thus it's majority of students are probably something like 70% of the entire school, no joke. You wouldn't believe how many people I hear say "Owned" and "Pwned" in person, at my school. Not to mention, last year there were only about 800-1,000 students here, so it's not that crowded either. I love it.
Aside from that, I even know a few people who dropped out of High School years ago, because of this issue, and they basically ended up having to get a GED if they wanted to do anything. On the other hand, I can completely relate to you Clockworkz with my Jr. High experience. [no offense] Girls were complete up-stuck-pricks, everyone had to wear Holoster and Abecrombe (sorry if I can't spell it, or am I? ) to be cool, or be in sports, or be "tough".
I mean, it's pathetic. My last name, which somehow ended up magically going with tons of other names, was a popular thing in my school with a group of people. Yeah, it sounds stupid, but seriously, after hearing it SO much, it built up fast. Eventually, I just didn't care, and it was almost muted in my mind. I knew some people that would get so pissed off at me, because maybe I "Gave them a weird look", and then they'd stare at me like I just killed their parents. Seriously, even though it doesn't make me sound too great, I did have thoughts about even maybe "destroying" some people in my school, to put it lightly ... Nothing really happened though. I just accepted the fact "I was the nerd", labeled by our pathetic society, and just continued to ignore it all and not even care about it. I've never tried to fit in, I've always kept true to myself, and have always been myself, and will always do so. All I can say Clockworkz, is keep going. Keep being strong about this, even though it's more than a fact this stuff is completely stupid, and pathetic shit, but it does happen almost everywhere. Just know one thing. You've done nothing wrong, and you're missing out on NOTHING, it's THEM, who will be missing out on YOU. |
| Elara Posts: 705/9736 |
I wasn't popular either, didn't get tormented as bad, but it still wasn't fun. Like Belial said, you just sorta find the people that share your interest. Perhaps you should try talking to your parents about getting one of them to pick you up or something so you don't have to deal with the bus anymore. |
| DarkGuardian Posts: 144/219 |
I feel for you to, when I was in high school I was treated the same way. It sucks that people do shit like this to people who are just a little different. But anyway after a certain time in high school people with start to grow up and will leave you alone. |
| Belial Posts: 49/647 |
I know what it's like to want to fit in. I moved to another state and knew no one, whatsoever. But what I found, is that I didn't fit in, no matter what. So I accepted it. There is a certain crowd who doesn't care about muscles and good looks. They care about interests. I found a group of anime-loving goths at my school. That was the group I fit into. There was also the laid back, casual groups. Just stop going after the 'perfect image' groups. Honestly, the only reason people stopping mocking me, and throwing things at me is because I started dressing in black.. and found that scaring those preps can be quite fun. There are people out there who would be willing to have you as a friend, I'm just assuming that you're looking in all the wrong places.  |
| The Accidental Protege Posts: 143/2641 |
It's like, no one gives a shit about how I feel or how their words affect me inside. IT's like I'm not not even a human to them. In school, I'm used as target practice for paper balls and spitballs, and because I'm out of shape and not incredibly handsome and a bit of a nerd, they make fun of my physical appearance (i'm not fat, don't get me wrong. I'm 150 lbs; I just lack... upper-body strength, so to speak), call me a pervert who likes anime (apparently, the only anime they've ever seen is Google anime, if you catch my drift) or a DBZ/Pokemon/Yu-Gi-Oh lover just becasue I like anime. This is high school, here people. Grow the fuck up. Don't tell me to brush it off, either. In high school, you're either in the in crowd and follow the flow, or you're out, your a freak and everyone hates you. Ok, I have 1, maybe 2 people who honestly stick up for me, but they're not in my classes, so they don't know about this. I'm not reporting it because if the principal drags their asses in, I'll get the crap beat out of me after school. To top it off, I'm on the... uh... urban bus that passes through the slums of my town. I'm the first one off, but I actually have to fear for my well being when I get on beacause I've been attacked on that bus too, with waterbottles and hard candy, not mention being tripped on the way out several times. I am not a racist, some of my aquaintances are black guys, I think that they're cool, but the dudes on my bus mean business. I just feel like my self confidence is going down the tubes. Now I don't have enough courage to approach the girl I like because of the self image I have. Will she hate me like all the rest? I don't know. I'm too afraid. Oh well; just one more year of this shit then I can go to Brookdale University and be away from all the fags. Fuck 'em. |
