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| Katana Posts: 240/3649 |
Everyone's right here....give her hugs and be there and such...and treat her as you would normally as well. It seems a lot of people on this board has lost someone important to them...some sort of parental figure...I'd say the worst part about loosing my step-dad George, was when three days later my dad gave this giant bruise...and it really hit me what I had actually lost, and what I was stuck with.
Anywho...I don't know this girl, so I'm not exactly sure how she's taking this...but I know from my reaction...Don't make it obvious or anything and don't show pity. Pity helps no one...well I believe that...caring about someone and showing them pity are two different things...back on target though...just randomly hug her. One big giant hug, just the two of you. I wanted that more than anything. Not to be babied or anything. Just have someone hug me and tell me that everything would be alright. No one did though. I hid it by acting all tough and stuff if that makes any sense...I didn't want there to be a big deal made of it. I just wanted that one hug from someone who really cared. Simple, yet it means a lot. So I suggest that as something to do for her. All that listening to her and stuff....yeah. But just one on one...that medium between not making a scene or anything, but pretty much saying "Hey, I'm here and I care." If any of that makes sense. |
| Xeoman Posts: 1186/11757 |
I think you should honestly treat her, completely regurarly. Yeah, be a little more nice, and friendly to her, but still she might take it the wrong way and could get upset if she noticed you are giving her "extra attention".
Then again, it depends on the person, and myself not knowing this girl I can't really judge how she'd think. So the decision is kind of in your hands I'd say. Just give her a lot of respect, be there for her, but don't overdramatize the issue or anything. In the past, I've had a friend lose his father, and another friend lose his mother. Just be there for them, when it comes to their Ceremony or something like that, but still treat them as you always would, just try to get extra time with "being with them" or something. I don't know if any of that made sense, or would even help, but I guess that's my suggestion ... |
| AngelBayB49 Posts: 67/87 |
I've lost my real father, someone who is like my father, & a woman who raised me (my aunt). I know how hard it is. To be honest there isn't much you can say. Just be there to listen, for her to cry, etc. Sometimes that's the best thing.
Even to this day it's hard for me. My father was killed 18 years, my grandfather died almost 5 years ago (this September 1 will be 5 years exactly), & my aunt died 7 years ago. All of those deaths are still hard to come to terms with. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't miss them. So again, just be there physically & emotionally. If she needs to vent, let her vent. If you think she wants a response, ask her if she does. Don't feel dumb for asking her what she wants, that's the only way you won't step on toes. |
| Elara Posts: 787/9736 |
Give her a big huggle from me as well. It is indeed hard to deal with losing a family member that you care about. Just remind her that they will never truly be dead as long as she keeps their memory alive in her heart, and to know that wherever they are now they are at peace. |
| Déesse Posts: 542/958 |
Well I know what she is going through, it is a tuff time, espically when someone very close to you is never there again  I had a tuff time, but no matter what, you and her friends should be there for her whenever it wont be an easy thing for her to get over. Just show her you are there and that she can have a shoulder to cry upon.
I'm sorry to hear of what has happened, give her a hug from me  |
| The Accidental Protege Posts: 163/2641 |
This is a tough time for her, and I better tell everyone here.
My friend, Nicole, is going through a hard time now. Her mother passed away due to an anyurism. I can't relate, but I'm sure the pain she feels right now is greater than anything anyone could ever feel. I'm not sure what to say to her to make things better; I just wish that I could make it all right for her. Please post a supportive thing for Nicole to let her know that my friends are pulling for her as well. |
