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| Elara Posts: 2764/9736 |
Don't push her, especially if you're moving out of the state. That alone is probably why she is acting like this, because it would hurt for her to be that attached and then you to leave. I'd say talk to her about the indifference thing, but just leave the "past second base" thing alone. |
| Stitch Posts: 1078/2785 |
You may be moving too fast, and you might end up pushing her away. It will probably be best to hold off on "second base" until she's ready. One day, she'll just tackle you and score a "home-run".
And, since you are her first boyfriend, this whole experience may be entirely new to her. It's best not to push something unfamiliar on her...if you'd like to keep her as your person-head. Then, there's the matter of that plane ticket... |
| Katana Posts: 858/3649 |
I'm gonna be blunt. Just because I know how she feels and I'm still like petrified of that kinda stuff myself...
Stop trying to get further than "second base". (I'm not criticizing you for the way you're putting that or anything. I'm sure it was to avoid saying something graphic.) But seriously, she'll let you know when she's ready. And that could be why she's acting a bit indifferent toward you too. But my concern is the whole her freaking out over you two doing stuffers. Like, she could be afraid to for numerous reasons...you never know, she could be really insecure, more than she lets on if she doesn't really show it in front of you. So trying to convince her to do those kind of things could REALLY upset her, ya know? **shrugs** I'm sure your intentions aren't bad. Otherwise you wouldn't say you loved her, even if it was only a case of thinking you are...Hope I made sense here...and I hope things work out for the better! 
And besides, these "great friends"...if they are your real friends, you'll stay friends with them. |
| The Accidental Protege Posts: 1184/2641 |
I'm gonna make this short, because my time is dwindling tonight.
Problem: We;ve been dating for four months. We see each other once a week, if we're lucky, since we go to different schools. Now, she's afraid to go any farther past me getting to second base. She's really freaking out over it. Not just that, though; she's incredibly indiffferent to things I want to do with her. "You wanna go to the movies?" "I dunno; maybe." "Well, what do you want to do?" "I dunno; you choose" Stuff like that. Her family is loaded; she gets what she wants al the time; she never complains about me doing stuff for her, since I'm amazingly strapped for cash, so I guess I'm lucky, but I just feel like I'm not good enough for her, or somethinglike that. I don't wanna break up with her; I love her (at least I think I do  ) and I don't wanna lose all the great friends I made through her. I'm moving out of state in 5 to 6 months, and we'll lose contact anyway, but I don't want to be tied down like this for much longer v.v I wish I knew what to do......  |
